Of The Things We Never Tell

I don’t think I can ever forget the day when I walked into the classroom on the brightest Friday morning to see a friend of mine, fumbling with a bandage roll. As soon as she saw me walking towards her (she was my bench mate), she turned away and (secretly) pushed the roll into her bag.

‘Hi?’ I greeted her, unsure of whether I should ask if she was all right or not. Sixteen years of life had taught me one of the greatest lessons – people don’t want you to ask them anything, especially when they are desperately trying to hide something.

So, I kept quiet.

‘Hi!’ she replied back with feverish enthusiasm. Her smile was way too cheerful. Her hands came around me and pulled me into a quiet hug. And she giggled or hid her sniffles under its pretext.

‘I’ve missed you so much!’

When she pulled back, I couldn’t help but notice the streaks of blood that ran down the cuffs of her red sweater. I felt an uncanny chill run down my entire body on seeing that. Till then, blood had never made me scared. But it was a sight, so painful, that for a moment I felt a sharp pain bubbling through my nose and spreading throughout.

‘You know what-‘ she continued, least aware that I had seen underneath her pretence. Pulling my hand down, she made me sit beside her.

‘He is such a nice guy, I tell you,’ she spoke with a fake happiness. The smiles and blushes never reached her eyes and I couldn’t mistake the way she gritted her teeth every time she drummed her fingers on the table. She was pulling up a perfect game.

‘He offered me roses! And you know what? He told me that I’m the only girlfriend he’s ever had!’

Under the desk, my hands felt clammy and I clenched them into tight fists. For I knew those were lies. Lies. Devastating lies. At that moment, I didn’t know who to be angry with. I was furious with my friend as she was being such an idiot. On the other hand, I knew it wasn’t her fault for the guy gave her false hopes. And she was madly in love with him, nevertheless.

‘T,’ I interjected. ‘Can I ask you something?’

She nodded.

‘Do you really like him?’

Her face twisted into a frown. I had never wanted people to misunderstand me. It so happened between friends that often, they are so caught up in a web of lies and delusional hopes that they refuse to believe you. And I didn’t want that to happen.

‘Y-yes,’ her voice broke and at that moment I realized that something was terribly, terribly wrong.

For the next few minutes, I heard the most horrific truths. There were times when I felt like giving her a hug, but I felt so cold. It was as if I was standing there, watching all this happen to her, yet I couldn’t do anything.

He abused her. Each night. Each day. Them being neighbours, didn’t help at all. Instead, it worsened things. She lived in eternal fear that her parents might find out. And that was the last thing she wanted her parents to know. She told that she can’t let them go through all the grief and pain. So for months together, she kept every emotion bottled inside her. Hurt. Fury. Pain.

There was no one she could reach out to, for she knew people would judge. They’d blame her. And it wasn’t shocking, for both of us had seen some people doing just that. There were times, she confessed, when she wanted to give up – to slit her wrists and distance herself away from all the pain of the world. For months, she took antidepressants, and battled the darkest phases, but everything seemed to be coming back to her.

‘I don’t know what to do,’ she sobbed. Her hands clasped mine and the warmth on my wrists, snapped me out of my trance. Looking down, I rolled down her sleeves to expose the deepest cuts and scars. I gasped.

‘Why?’ I asked; demanded, in fact.

‘He made me feel worthless. He made me feel like I had no right to live.’

‘He,’ I said, ‘is no god! He has no right to decide who deserves to live and who doesn’t.’

An awkward stretch of silence followed and as I looked around, I realized the other students were slowly starting to stare in our direction.

‘Everything fine?’ another friend of mine enquired.

It took me a great deal of effort to nod. I wasn’t sure if shit could be called fine.

‘Do you hate me?’ she mumbled next to me.

‘I-I am not sure.’

Perhaps it broke her, but I knew that I was going to do anything to pull her out of the mess. I was going to do anything to walk her to the lighthouse that helped many a wandering traveller.

We are no angels. We make mistakes. Small mistakes. Big mistakes. But they shouldn’t define our future. They shouldn’t make us give up in everything and consider ourselves worthless. Each one of us has dark days. Cold days when blistery winds seem to cast a veil on the land. At some places, winters last longer. But when the summer comes, it arrives in all its pleasant glory. All we need to do sometimes is, wait for the summers. And we need to believe that they will be there, no matter what.

At times when we feel like giving up, we must not submit to the urges. The universe promises a wonderful life for each one of us. And what a pity if we don’t live it! Why shouldn’t we!

Today, my phone beeps to her message.

‘How are you?’ she asks.

‘How are you?’ I reply back.

‘You rescued me.’

And I smile in relief.

We all need something to pull us out of the mess; someone to rescue us in our darkest days.


32 thoughts on “Of The Things We Never Tell”

    1. I would have done that too, but I realized that it was not my place. The only person who could pack a punch and beat the shit out of the guy was my friend and she did that long ago.

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  1. Very well written. So very well written that I hated reading it but had to continue. I had to know how it ended while my stomach churned in pain. A happy ending? Yes. but not without leaving scars of pain within the happy ending.

    I don’t know if I should thank you for sharing this or not. It darkened my day with the reality that some other people must face in life. A a work of art, your expression did everything it should do. Shocked and caused me to think. It’s not that I live with rose colored glasses and hide away from reality, but to have it written with such great detail, as only a great writer can do, leaves me with only one thought and feeling. I’m glad I’m not young anymore. I’m glad that I don’t have to deal with abusive relationships. I’m glad to be me. I’m glad that you were there for her.

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  2. We are so afraid to tell our stories of abuse. The shame keeps those stories well hidden. Our self identity is built around that. It’s wonderful that you were there to help and mostly to listen.
    Though I cannot press Like either. Thank you for helping. It means more than you can imagine.

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  3. (This is Jen making the comment…the other half of Joewriteshiswrongs)
    First I want to say I am amazed at how well written your post was and the amount of such great detail you put in it. It was as if I could vision what I was reading. I imagine you are younger as you made a comment about sixteen years of life…which makes me even more impressed with your writing skills.
    Secondly coming from someone who has been in an abusive relationship she is lucky to have a friend like you who could tell that she was hiding something and showed her she was not alone. Sometimes it’s not that the person is being dumb and thinking “oh he loves me he didn’t mean it”, it’s that they are just that scared of what the person will do to them or a loved one.
    I am glad she got out of the situation she was in…nobody should have to be in that kind of situation, let alone a child (I say child because I am 31 lol). You’re a good friend.

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  4. Wow!! Incredible piece. You’re very talented and articulate. Keep it up. I love the way you capture the emotion of the story. It really draws me in as the reader and puts me in your shoes. Glad your friend is ok. Also love the photography on your blog. Thanks for checking out my page too – much appreciated. I look forward to seeing more of your posts 😀

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  5. I agree. It is hard to LIKE this but I there are now GREAT WRITING buttons to click so I had to just click LIKE. But good for you for writing this! I have written a story in fictional form via http://www.kerisjournal.wordpress.com that chronicles the abuse that I went through as a young girl. I think that it is so important to make young girls aware of the power they have to not be stuck!

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  6. Very well-written, I hope that every girl who reads this will be emboldened to reach out to those around her if she feels the need to help. We all need friends like you in our lives.

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  7. This is such a powerful piece. I trust that your friend is getting the help, nay, the intervention, that she needs. I despise men who victimize women. I wrestle with the basic commandment that Jesus gave concerning forgiveness. I know I cannot forgive without the divine intervention of Christ. Even when I remember all we’ve been forgiven for, I still to seethe over vioence and abuse and torture. I guess all I can be is a voice in the wilderness crying for justice and peace and love.

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